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Let us guess – if you’ve found your way here, you’re likely a best man or best woman and the nerves have hit. The initial high of being asked to step into the special role of honour has subsided ever-so-slight and a touch of panic is starting to rush through your blood.
Firstly, congratulations!! To have been nominated best man or woman, you’re obviously a very significant figure in the life of the soon-to-be-groom and that should give you plenty of confidence in itself. You’re going to do great! But if you are having a little last minute freak out ahead of the big day, we understand! There is an art that goes into the perfect man speech, but with just a few tweaks, you can also quite easily be one of the highlights of the wedding.
Before we let you get any more nervous and have to roll out the breathing techniques to lower your heart rate: we found a solution! We caught up with our friends at Wicked Bucks, who have plenty their part in literally hundreds of weddings around the globe. During their time, they’ve heard enough speeches to know what it takes to be a standout, for all the right reasons.
Now, they’re here to guide you through the process of writing and delivering an A+ best man speech. They’ve got plenty of dos and don’ts, plus tips on what to include when writing. Following these super simple and handy steps, and you’ll be certain to walk away with all the praise and admiration of a viral TikTok speech.
Are you ready to dive in? Read on to discover Wicked Bucks’ top tips to writing a best man speech for the buck.
Top tips to writing a best man speech for the buck
1. Choose your theme
No one can just sit down and write a speech from scratch with no direction and ideas – unless you’re a professional writer of course. Instead, the best way to get your creative juices flowing and flesh out your thinking is to start by brainstorming ideas. In between all the funny memories, laughable moments and proud milestone, look for a theme that runs between all those anecdotes. What’s the one element that ties it all together? In the most simple of terms, your theme is usually the one thing that people will walk away from your speech and remember forever.
2. Build a framework
The easiest and quickest way to structure your thoughts is to create a scaffold of the key points that you want to cover and a overview of how you can transition between each. After you’ve mapped out all the ideas, you can go back and fill in the details. This approach will help you stay on track, while still keeping the speech engaging and memorable. When it comes to your framework of ideas, you don’t need to go overboard either. You can get in one or two short anecdotes and one big idea. If those are good, you probably don’t need anymore.
3. Focus on the newly weds
While it’s all fun and games to make fun of your buddy, remember why you’re here. Your job is to help celebrate the relationship between the two people getting married. You were chosen to give this speech as your insights and experiences can probably help shine some unique light on that relationship. So if your speech starts become one about your relationship with the groom, well… things can get a little awkward very quickly.
4. Share your feelings
In many friendships, particularly your longest standing ones, you may be surprised to discover how rarely you actually express your emotions and feelings about each other. After so many years spent together, it’ not uncommon to become so uncomfortable which each other that it almost feels weird to share how we actually feel. But those heartfelt sentiments can be what truly makes the best man speeches. Your added jokes and humour are all just icing on the cake.
If you really want your speech to stand out, ensure you’re writing and delivering something that’s more than just joke and joke. After all, you were chosen to give this speech because the newlyweds truly believe that you have something special to add to their big day.
5. Stay true to yourself
It’s very easy to get caught down a rabbit hole of YouTube videos, TikToks and How-To blogs, but at the end of the day, this is your speech. It’s meant to be uniquely you and represent the unique relationship of the soon-to-be married couple. So, stick to who you are and how you would normally act around your friends. Don’t try to be funny if you’re not usually the clown of the group, don’t go too deep if you’re not usually very sentimental and don’t follow the exact approach of another speech that you’ve seen just for the sake of it. Your friends and family will be able to tell straight away.
Keep in mind that you’re not performing, you’re there because you have a meaningful relationship with someone that is celebrating one of the most important days of their life. With that in mind, the best approach to have when tackling your best man speech is to stay true to yourself. Don’t steal the show, don’t try and be a star and don’t get yourself too nervous that you can’t actually get any words out on the big day. Just relax, enjoy the process and have some fun sharing your views on the couple of the hour.
